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How to Write a Journal Entry When You Have “Nothing” to Write About

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Thinking small now will have a big impact later.

A couple of years ago, I shared my 10 Tips for Keeping a Journal, and today I want to elaborate on Tip #3: Think Small.

As I said in my previous post, “If you wait until you have ‘good stuff’ to write about, your journal may stay closed for months. The truth is, there’s good stuff happening all around us almost every day. Consider this—who’s this journal for? You, right? What will YOU want to look back on in ten years? What you’ll crave are the little things. The tiny little slices of life that you’ve forgotten about. So your job when journaling is to master the mundane.”

It’s true. I’ve been rereading some of my old journals (a favorite summer habit) and want to scream at my college-age self, “Stop babbling about boy troubles, and tell me what’s in your pockets!” (Somewhere, in another universe, college-age me just had a very strange dream.) Really though, there are plenty of pages about my feelings (which are important, yes) but not enough about my world. When I look back on that time, I’m not interested in reliving all my relationship angst. I’d much rather see my former surroundings—where I spent my Thursday afternoons and which t-shirt was my favorite and what I ate for breakfast. Even after college, I still sometimes went through phases of vague melancholy or (worse) vague bliss where I described my deep feelings of unease or contentment without ever really pinpointing where they came from. That’s why I’m thrilled when I stumble upon entries like this one from February 18, 2007:

I am sitting in my purple chair wearing the new jeans I got at Buffalo Exchange tonight (that I love) with the green sweater that I rescued from the Goodwill bag (that I now really like) and the flip flops from Kelley’s wedding and a black head band wrap. I look totally funky stylin’ (in my not so fashionable opinion).

Note #1: Sweater and flip flops in Austin in February sounds about right.
Note #2: I am such a hoarder of clothes. I used to be SO BAD about putting things in a bag to take to Goodwill and then “rescuing” them a couple of days later, only to wear them once and then send them back to my closet for another year. I’ve learned my lesson. Now I take the bag to Goodwill immediately. Usually.
Note #3: I feel like I was quoting a friend when I used the phrase “funky stylin'” but I don’t remember who. Also, I hope I was being sarcastic.

Or this one from January 31, 2011:

I am sitting in my backyard writing by the light of the campfire I just made for myself (with the help of a firestarter log from HEB). My plan is to sit here and write in my journal and drink some High Life and read Lolita and enjoy the evening for as long as I like, no matter the time. I hear something barking off in the distance– maybe a coyote. Oh, and now I hear the muted but unmistakable caterwauling of Gink…

Note #1: High Life? Seriously? My guess is someone left them at my house.
Note #2: High Life and Lolita is a classy combination.
Note #3: I just Googled January 31, 2011, and it was a Monday, so I was enjoying this late-night campfire on a school night. How scandalous!
Note #4: You have no idea how loud my cat’s caterwauling can be. Someday, when he’s gone, this journal entry will remind me of the crazy sounds he used to make, and it will make me smile.

Those are the kinds of journal entries I can sink my nostalgic teeth into.

So if you’re keeping a journal, and you’re worried that nothing you write is exciting enough, fret not. Some of the most mundane tidbits today may be the lines that give you the biggest smiles ten years from now.

When in doubt, follow these simple instructions:

HOW TO WRITE A JOURNAL ENTRYDownload a PDF of this diagram here:
HOW TO WRITE A JOURNAL ENTRY.

Here’s an entry I wrote based on this format, without taking any of the optional tangents:

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See? Until the robot swung the baseball bat and uncovered the hidden scorpion, there was nothing earth-shattering about this entry, but someday I’ll be glad I mentioned how Gabby used to insist on laying in my lap, and I’ll probably laugh about how excited I was over my first Roomba when I see what the robots of the future can do.

So give it a try. Grab a favorite pen and find a comfy spot and write something that future you will enjoy reading. Most importantly, have fun.

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One last thing: Don’t ever feel like you have to fill up a whole page. Even short entries can have a lasting effect.

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Terrible handwriting aside, that’s quite a nice little nugget. 🙂

 

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10 Tips For Keeping a Journal

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I started my first journals when I was in junior high. I called them my “poetry journals” because they were filled with—you guessed it—poetry. Mostly really, really dramatic rhyming poetry with titles like “Flirting with Disaster” and “Dancing with Danger.” Those journals evolved to include favorite quotes, photos, birthday cards, cartoons cut out of the newspaper, random snippets about my life, and strange collages created from cutting up trashy tabloid magazines. But I still called them my “poetry journals.”

On the night before I left for college, when I was eighteen, I finally started my first real diary-like journal, and I’ve been keeping one pretty consistently ever since. I currently have twenty-eight volumes. That doesn’t include those old “poetry journals” I made, or the few dream journals I kept, or the many writers’ notebooks I’ve compiled in the last few years. That’s twenty-eight journals full of pages and pages and pages of writing about my life. Of talking to myself on paper. Of all the love and loss and contentment and craziness crammed in my little brain.

Some people have trouble keeping a journal for a month, much less twenty-one years. (Yep, I’m 39. Good job on those math skills.) So how did I do it? How did I keep a journal going for more than two decades? I’ll tell you.

10 Tips For Keeping a Journal

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1. DON’T Write Everyday!

Wait, what? Are you serious?

Yes, I’m serious. This doesn’t apply to people working on a novel. In that case, yes, you should probably write everyday (even though I consistently fail at that). But when it comes to journaling, the quickest way to kill the habit is to put undue pressure on yourself. If you tell yourself you HAVE to write everyday, one of three things is going to happen.

  • A) Pretty soon you’ll miss a day and then you’ll feel like a failure and you’ll give up.
  • B) You’ll actually write in it everyday, but soon your entries will start to sound like this: Bought milk on the way home. Did some laundry. Um… what else? Congratulations! You’re writing a journal no one (not even you) will ever want to read.
  • C) You’ll write every single day, and it will become easier and easier, and your entries will get longer and longer, and you will learn so much about yourself, and when you finish the journal you’ll realize it contains the memoir you’ve always wanted to write, and it’s publishable immediately with no revision!

Just kidding. C doesn’t happen. It turns out there were only two choices.

Here’s the deal: when it comes to your journal, sometimes distance makes the heart grow fonder. Think of it like a really good friend who you don’t see every day. Isn’t it more fun to get together when you have life stuff to catch up on? Keep your journal handy—it should never be far—but let it rest a little while you gather some things to tell it. Next time you pick it up, you may write something worth reading.

2. Skip to the Good Stuff.

When you do pick up your journal and start to write, don’t feel like you have to fill it in on every detail of your life. If you did that to your friend, her eyes would glaze over pretty quickly. Show your journal the same respect. I don’t know how many times I’ve scribbled out four pages of babble until my hand was sore and THEN written, “But what I really wanted to write about was…” When I do that, the big news often gets short-changed in the entry.

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Journal #29

3. Think Small.

Then again… if you wait until you have “good stuff” to write about, your journal may stay closed for months, and that’s no good. The truth is, there’s “good stuff” happening all around us almost every day. Consider this—who’s this journal for? You, right? What will YOU want to look back on in ten years? Chances are, you’re going to remember the big things. Your wedding, your novel getting published, that time you won $7,000,000 in the lottery—those are going to stick with you. What you’ll crave are the little things. The tiny little slices of life that you’ve forgotten about. So your job when journaling is to master the mundane. Where are you? What are you wearing? What are you listening to? Personally, I’m sitting in my office at home at 10:23PM, wearing my polar bear pajamas (pretty new) and my faded black Dirty Dancing t-shirt (very old), and my iTunes just started playing “Cheating Man” by Jeff Plankenhorn. That right there will tell me more about life at this moment than anything else I can think of to say. Write small now and it will have a big impact later.

4. Get Some Guidance.

If you’re stymied by the blank page and even thinking small isn’t helping, consider starting with a journal that offers some assistance. There are numerous diaries and journals out there that offer a lot more than empty space within their pages. There are journals that guide you through prompts, questions, lists, meditations, affirmations, and more. Three popular ones are: Listography, Wreck This Journal, and the 5-Year Q&A Journal. <– I have this one and I recommend it even if you use a traditional format too. Each page is a day of the year and each day has a question. You have four lines to answer it. You repeat this daily exercise for five years. I admit, the first year it was a little boring, but I’m on the fourth year now, and I love reading my past answers and seeing how life has changed (or not) during that time. Four lines is not a lot of space, so the writing gets cramped. For that reason, I write in a different color every year to make the separation visible. (2016 is blue.)

5. Break the Rules.

Write upside down. Doodle. Skip a page. Use a big fat Sharpie. This is YOUR JOURNAL. Whatever rules you’re following came from YOU. You can change them.

If you’re using a guided journal, don’t be afraid to stray from the path. Ignore the question of the day and write whatever you want. When you find yourself going on more and more tangents, you’ll know you’re ready to tackle the blank page.

I contemplate journaling theory in the second entry of my first ever diary-journal.
I contemplate journaling theory in the second entry of my first ever diary-journal in August 1995. I must have come up with a point, since I kept writing.

6. Go Back.

You’re doing it! You’re finally keeping a journal! You’ve written so much! Now what? Let a little time pass, and then go back and reread. This is a wonderful experience. Yes, you’ll probably cringe a little. There will be at least one point where you’ll blush uncontrollably, look around to make sure your mom/dad/husband/high school crush is not reading over your shoulder, and then slam the cover shut anyway, just in case. But you’ll also laugh and smile a lot and maybe even find a few treasures.

I have a ritual I like to do. When I finish a journal, I like to flip back to the first page and read the first sentence of every entry. Sometimes just those snippets tell a story.

7. Choose Wisely.

Take the time to find a journal you really love. There are so many styles and varieties out there, you should be able to get something that’s comfortable and fits your personality. But don’t choose something so fancy and expensive that you’ll be afraid to write in it. Your journal shouldn’t be a shrine. Let it get messy.

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8. Mark Your Place.

In addition to a good journal, you also need a good bookmark. Whether it’s a cute little tasseled thing with a kitten on it, a photograph, a fall leaf you picked up in the park, or simply the closest not-too-crinkled post-it note, use something to mark your progress through your new adventure. If you’re like me, as the marker approaches the finish line, you’ll find yourself writing more. Oh how I love to finish things!

9. Enter the Cloud, If You Must.

Obviously, when it comes to journaling, I am a pen and paper person. Give me ink and parchment or give me death! No, wait. Not death. I’ll scratch my diary entry in the dust with a stick if I have to. Luckily, I have a lot of both around. But I digress. (Sorry, it’s really late.) If you’re more comfortable keeping your journal online, so be it. Tips #1-6 still apply. Although it will be a lot harder to write upside down on the computer. ˙ƃuıɥʇʎuɐ ǝlƃooƃ uɐɔ noʎ ¡ɐɥ ɐɥ ɐɥ ɐɥ ɐɥ ɐɥ ¡ʇno ʇı pǝɹnƃıɟ ı ¡ʞool

10. Get Back to Basics.

Let’s say you start a journal. Let’s say you take my advice and don’t pressure yourself to write every day. Or every week even. Let’s say that… oh… SIX MONTHS go by without you writing in your journal. Or LONGER. There’s NO WAY you can catch up on everything that’s happened since you’ve been gone. You don’t even remember the big stuff, much less the small stuff. That blank page of failure is staring up at you. What do you do?

You pick up your pen. You write down today’s date. You jot down the time. You take a deep breath. You write, Hello journal. I’ve missed you. And you go from there.

Just be yourself. Just have fun with it. Just write. Journals are very forgiving creatures. There’s no way to do it wrong.

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For a sneak peek into some of my old journal entries, check out this post from my previous blog.